I'm not going to paraphrase or excerpt Matt's article. He tells a story of a moment of great personal enlightenment, the result of an experience in which he had to grow. Yes inner conflict was required for his realization but it wasn't a terrible threat. It was all in his head. As you read this please remember that the running dialog in our heads doesn't create emotional states... it is the byproduct.

What’s Helped Me Get Out of My Head and Do Things That Scare Me — by Matt Hattersley