At some point, you have to reckon with your behavioral patterns and beliefs from childhood. For most people, that means dealing with their family issues.

In many respects, people are dealing with family issues from day one of their spiritual journeys. That is because if you were raised in a family situation, then you created a whole lot of invisible and unconscious beliefs by following what your family was doing. If you didn't have a family growing up, you still absorbed a lot of ideas and copied a lot of patterns from the people around you at the time. Any way you look at it, you're going to end up doing a lot of spiritual work on the stuff that happened and got learned when you were young because all of that forms your mental and emotional foundation. That foundation dictated to you most of what you thought was possible to do or be, and the levels of your life all got built off it. Now, it's time to take down the "family house."


The History of Family


While I haven't done much research on the history of families, a couple of things do seem to be fairly evident. One of which is that family was central to survival. This is especially true when we're less than 5 years old and can't do anything for us. It's extremely likely that we would die if we did not rely on our families to feed us, protect us, clean us up, and so much more. This is a fundamental human truth.


However, in centuries past where there weren't social safety nets--and for many societies in modern day as well--family was the social safety net. There was no unemployment, food stamps, welfare, or anything else to help out. Trying to survive on one's own in many civilizations and climates was extremely difficult. Having more people around to gather resources, protect you from warring factions, care for you if you got sick, and other additional tasks were extremely important supports to your survival. Being that our survival is one of the driving forces inside of us, relying on family became an unsaid and deeply accepted belief for most people around the world.
Although Jim doesn't use the term epigenetics this is the heart of his discussion. His suggestions for breaking free of unconscious patterns created by family life are brilliant. This is an excellent article for anyone on a personal growth of spiritual path.

Unwriting Family Beliefs And Behavior Patterns — by Jim Tolles

https://www.spiritualawakeningproces...-behavior.html